Many of the conversations I’ve had with family members in some way falls back to communication – or lack of, in modern culture. Phrasing from the past like “actions speak louder than words” is a favorite phrase to use even today. In reality, life wouldn’t function properly without words – without communication. One of the most informative ways we get to know people is though communication. That I don’t think we can argue.
Unlike the nostalgic eras of letter-writing and proper conversation, communication is something we lose in the muddle of other pursuits. Although it’s one of the “Five Languages of Love,” in a generation in which we “text speak,” the English language continues to be butchered, there is also a lack of face-to-face conversation.Contemporary Communication [and It's Flaws] #FWarchives Click To Tweet
Could it be, this one social grace that we are perhaps, losing?
Speaking from experience, conversation doesn’t come easy to every person – for some it’s a strength, others a weakness. Growing up, I was one of the latter people. If I wasn’t among people I’d grown up with, it was a safe bet that observation is my game. It wasn’t until a handful of years ago that I began “pushing” myself to walk out of my comfort zone; to say more. In my face-to-face personal life, I know people who have no interest in conversation that doesn’t relate to them. Their boredom is obvious if you try to share something they have no interest in. As a result, admittedly I’ve probably become a bit close-mouthed when it comes to sharing. I’ve learned that just because a question is posed, that doesn’t mean the other person really cares.
The studies of society reports that from social media and texting, young people are misplacing , the “ability” to converse. Rather than pick up the phone, what do we do? We pull up a blank text message because we don’t think we have the “time” to sit around chatting. This I know, I’m a big offender of, although in my mind, this doesn’t suggest I don’t care. But to the receiver, perhaps it does.
How comfortable each person feels holding conversation depends largely on personalities. Some crave being in the spotlight, others prefer to be an observer instead of the person keeping up the discussion. That is where we are dropping off – taking a moment to realize when someone needs a listening ear. Whether it’s in person or virtual, sometimes the simplest thing is a cheery word of encouragement can brighten a day. The difference between face-to-face and virtual relationships is the former offers the benefit of expression, hearing voice tones and recognition of moods. The latter forces us to look deeper and literally read “between the lines,” into when someone may be opening the door to further conversation.
Somehow in the excitement or dash to “update” the social pages we frequent, we lose the simple act of saying, thinking of you. Taking our time for granted, we forget to pause, to encourage; to listen. Even if we may not feel equipped to give advice because our own learning process is still ongoing, remember it’s okay not to have all the answers. Sometimes lending a listening ear can be more helpful; that says more than being a disinterested friend. It suggests you’re only interest is in a one-sided relationship.
During our day-to-day virtual profiles and on-line character, don’t forget that the person on the other end of your conversation is a person. Maybe not one you can see or enjoy a literal face-to-face conversation, but a living person nonetheless. Each of us has a different personality and ways of handling things. During the fun that is possible because of the Internet, it never harms us to pause to think through what we’re saying before sharing. Even the best of intentions can come out all wrong. And when it comes to communication, one never knows how something may affect someone; it may inspire an anonymous reader to take a healthy look at life. Everything that we say is a reflection of our self – and that is, perhaps what’s most intimidating. ♥