DISAGREEMENT DOESN’T REQUIRE THE DEFENSE OF BEING LESS THAN
Being a part of social media often means I see something that makes me pause. Sometimes the result is a positive thing and other times it’s something that after a great deal of thought, I come back to with questions. One of the social curiosities that is making me think is the recent social experiment or thought that being “crappy” is something to own. This makes me wonder even more about an otherwise good culture going wrong.
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One of the obstinate opinions I have about society is that we have lost the ability to engage in conversation which we all know I link to social media. It’s been on the social platforms in the past six months (longer when I think about another theme) I’ve been noticing that there’s groups who lean into a “crappy” title for themselves in a kind of self-imposed moniker, sometimes one of moral superiority.
This comes with using your religion, political affiliation or family title and prefixing it with being “crappy” in that role. Usually this comes after the person feels spoken down to and so they use some sort of phrase like saying they’re clearly a “crappy [insert title]” as a kind of snap back. culture going wrong
Thing is, I don’t think this a “good” thing.
Even if it is just some sort of “trendy,” funny response, it really doesn’t seem like a net postive.
If we’re talking religion, I think this subculture believes its combating the “self-love” and you’re a “winner” no matter what. I can understand this from the perspective of that’s not always healthy or what’s needed either. However, the answer to this isn’t the extreme opposite which promotes being, for lack of a better term, crappy.
When I’ve seen this on social media, it’s usually after some kind of disagreement. Person A says something that person B disagrees with. Person B takes this as a kind of judgment or moral high ground statement. This then causes person B to say some form of “guess I’m just a crappy [insert title].” Then what happens is that person joins a different online clique and by doing so, they too display a form of moral superiority by forming a new social club where they’re sure there won’t be this drama. Whether right or wrong, drama will eventually find any group. This is just what social media helps to foster.
While I’m not saying person B isn’t justified in feeling upset or hurt because of something someone said to them, the idea that they too aren’t putting up a form of differential isn’t true. Whether we like to admit it or not, we’ve lost the ability to converse. This then circles back to the idea of always being right or the best or getting a ribbon for everything. Sometimes we just have to let the conversation go, move on and find the person who wants conversation even if it is an agree to disagree result.
Or perhaps, though I don’t think this is always true, some of the time we need to admit we’re wrong.
Whatever is causing this new (and in some cases tired) argument of being “crappy,” it’s not something I support. If you look at it from a religious perspective, there is always something we can work on and improve. However, I don’t think making the antidote to a culture of “perfection” is promoting people being “crappy.” For some of us, I think this is a safety measure (“I’m not good enough”) we use to make ourselves feel better, maybe under the guise of honesty.
For others I think it’s unhealthy because we have convinced ourselves we just aren’t good or enough.
Between the two – always a winner vs being less than and “crappy” – I think there’s a balance that is more honest and would also help society. Saying someone can do no wrong or that they’ll always get a trophy isn’t the answer. But then on that same coin, it isn’t healthy to self loathe or to say we’re somehow “deficient” because of a disagreement on social media.
Have you noticed any of this in social media? Do you use this defense for yourself? Would you? Does it make sense to you? Have you thought about it before? Do you observe things like this on social media or just notice an otherwise postive issue in culture going wrong? Comment all the comments below. Let’s chat about them all.
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