Like any little girl who may play dress up in her innocent childish manner or the more mature version of that child who dreams that the cool guy in school is more than a handsome face, thoughts of weddings have entered my mind – and specifically what my own will someday be like and more importantly, who the man will be waiting at the end of the aisle.
Many of the young ladies whom I have become friends with have written posts in which they pour out their hearts over desires and questions about someday being in a relationship that, let’s be honest, most of us don’t even fully understand yet. These are some of the most honest posts that have felt like heart-to-hearts that we all relate too. To my knowledge, there is not one blogger on my dashboard that hasn’t written a post on this subject. Every girl would probably be lying if she say that she hasn’t thought about the man who will someday capture our heart.
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Let’s just be honest: Who among us hasn’t sighed over the literary heroes of our girlhood? I’d wager we all have. Doesn’t matter what his name is, or what era he might hail from we have each picked out a favorite, none of whom are “real.” All of these men
mentally fed those starry-eyed ideals – and perhaps formed the purview of Mr. Right. Recently I read an author’s bio that suggested she’d kissed about fourteen boys but none of them turned out to be a prince. Reading it struck me as quite cynical and I wondered to myself how this would read to any of the thousands of young people about to devour her novel. It seemed such a dim, unhealthy view of love. Though on reflection, it is important for even the least romantic of us to understand that Mr. Right isn’t going to be that hero from our favorite novels. Perhaps the biggest offender of how society sullies marriage is American pop culture.
Hollywood is not kind to the sanctity of marriage. But not long ago a film produced by a secular company appeared on the box-office screen that challenges this. It was The Vow. In it, a man proved his loyalty to his wife despite the fact that the couple
had been through a terrible car wreck in which his beloved wife lost her memories of their life together. Channing Tatum’s portrayal of a broken man is quite good; his inability to let go, to fight for his wife is endearing. As Leo, he proves that sometimes, love is a choice. Then there is the American music industry as a fount of promise when it comes to “forever” love.
One such reference is in a song called, “Superman.” Its lyrics play off of the invincible Clark Kent’s alter-ego as the female voice promises to “stand by” him and await his return even as he “flies away.” Her pledge to her Superman is one of promise and waiting for his return.
Uncharacteristically, this lyrical message is one that applies to reality as a reminder of how we should treat a relationship. Judicial law gives all couples the option of walking away. Whether this is through divorce or heartbreak from being in a committed relationship, there is rarely accountability. Shouldn’t we fight harder? Want more than just moments or a few years of happiness in a relationship? Gaining a “boyfriend” for the sake of appearance is more detrimental than “waiting” for the man who will cherish you. Not because society demands we bend to the pressures of being ½ of something. Though the song may be nothing more than a feel-good tune, it is a reminder of loyalty and love being a choice.
Remember that though you may have a “list,” expectations that demand respect, realize that he isn’t Superman. He may be Mr. Right but he is human. His expectations of you will necessitate equal respect. When we come to understand that respect and love go hand-in-hand, only then will that love be perfect. ❤