Fashion and/or modesty is often a point of contention for many parents and their children – or more specifically teenage daughters. In the small circle of people – primarily home-school families, that I rub shoulders with, most of them, if not all have very strict views on modest fashion. And, I do too. But I also firmly believe that a girl can dress in tune with modern fashion trends and still be modest.Modern Style: Fashionable or Immodest? #FWarchives Click To Tweet
On my own, I didn’t start to develop, what I’d categorize a “style” until my teens because up until then there were rules. The fact that my mom never once let me get away with purchasing something immodest is extremely beneficial to me. Now as a young adult I know just by looking at something if it’s right or not. Honestly, I wasn’t the type of child to try and convince her to buy me something that was the “it” accessory for the season, but still…
There was a point when I wondered why my parents didn’t let me pick out the “cool” clothes. I had two strikes against me in dressing modestly. First it’s twice as hard to find appropriate clothes, and in my little-girl logic, I knew buying a graphic tee had to be less expensive than a nice, attractive, ankle-length dress for Sunday best. Back when my mom gave me more leeway to choose things, I have did enjoy buying new things.
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Whether a good or bad thing, I must admit that I don’t think I have a specific “style.” Or I haven’t catered to it if I do. I pull a lot of trendy things off the rack, fall in love with them and promptly buy it. However, I do realize that I probably should make up my wardrobe with “classier” pieces because in the long run, they have style longevity. Of late, my mom and I shop on-line at the likes of Land’s End (love their sales, otherwise, their prices are insane); a place that specializes in classic sweaters and chinos (isn’t that really just a fancier name for cotton dress pants?). With the autumn season upon us comes new fashions, and I’m happy to read that longer skirts are back. How unusual is that? Little by little, I’m adding some timeless pieces
Something that might work for me might not work for the girl next door – whether it be shape, color or style. Different colors look better on different skin tones, and the same is true of make-up and its tonal palette. (I have this whole “thing” about these stars and their cherry red lips, but I won’t get into that!) There is an entire generation who don’t realize how terrible they look; and not because of the wrong look on the wrong person but all because of its immodesty. It isn’t just out on the street in the passerby or at work, but within the church. That is really sad. What is it going to take for girls to realize that how they dress says a lot about them…?
In my life, I haven’t experienced two extremes of modest dressing; meaning I do wear wear jeans and a T-shirt. I was allowed that growing up just so long as the shirt eliminated any inappropriate skin showing. My choice of dress today is much the same. I wear blue jeans a lot and then pair them with a cute jacket or blouse. Sundays I hold myself to dressing up because otherwise I rarely go places that demand that. The majority of those Sundays I wear skirt and top to match, and then pair the right accessories with the outfit to complete the look. The right outfit or style can do a lot for a person. It isn’t “important” to life, but it can sure brighten our day to buy a new, trendy outfit. And, really who doesn’t think a new pair of shoes can add that last missing component to your otherwise chic ensemble?
I’d be interested in your input and viewpoints: what were your standards? What is your favorite thing about modern fashion? Comment below…