If there’s one thing you should know about these blog posts that I manage to scribble on paper, it’s that some of their inspiration is from lyrics. I’ll be making a batch of muffins with my bright orange ear buds in and when my new favorite song blares in my ears, something will click as a new blog post. That is the case with this, The Image Issue, one.
What does “self respect” mean to you? To some that may seem like an easy answer but is it? Do we really think about what it means to respect ourselves – to live how we want to be seen? In this big, cruel world there’s any number of things that tear us down, and we, as human, allow them to. One such platform being social media. For some inexplicable reason, we’re addicted to it. Time and again we foolishly return to its “pull,” in a sense bending us to its will. It would seem we cannot break away from something that has the power to be destructive. What is it about this trend that has us under its thumb and can reduce us to tears – or worse?
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Back to that original question: How do you define self worth?
To me, it means knowing how to stand up for yourself. Whether it be in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t respect you, or dressing in a way that suggests you don’t want respect. In the world of social media, I see a lot of good. There are blogs and twitter feeds that bring a smile to my face every day. Their nature is a positive one that is to encourage people, not hurt their peers – and I applaud that. I see the Internet as something that can be used for good, most of the time. Recently there has been some hullabaloo about bullying. It isn’t something “new” considering advocates around the world fight for its end. This all comes about after a film on this very subject.
The world is not kind to anyone who does not conform to their ideal of “perfect” or beauty. Adapt to their codes of acceptance, make compromises, or be outed from the “cool club.” Day after day, images are impressed upon us of unhealthy models in a fashion catalog or the gorgeous actress that so many young girls look up to and in a fashion, modeled their lives after. Everything tells us that we need to either be “that” or we’re “overweight.” That we should maintain our size-X body or it’s unhealthy. Recently, I did go on a few shopping excursions to buy some new clothes. One of the things that blows me away is browsing the “junior’s section,” and seeing the cute, bright-color shorts that look more appropriate to cover my favorite doll than a live person.
The last year has seen an awesome group of powerhouse of female artist’s record songs about recognizing our inner-beauty. They cover copies like realizing that no matter the whisper, we have beauty in Him. Britt Nicole has one such song that overflows with lyrics that tells of our worth in “gold”; that our life matters because we’re beautiful on the inside because He cherishes us. Carrie Underwood also sings a beautiful song that encourages us not to let the “mirror mirror on the wall” deceive us. Finally, the lovely Katherine McPhee also one appropriately called, “Beautiful.” I don’t know if the songs mean anything personally to the artist and writers but they have poignant messages.
Also with a good purpose is an episode from Jane by Design. It’s one in which Jane is tasked with interviewing high school students about the fashion trends of a high schooler. What she learns – and the point of the episode – is that the students are individuals. They’re people who make their own statements and don’t want to be “told” what is cool and what isn’t; they have their own unique style. My argument here is not to further a PC platform but instead to say that no matter what our features are or the color of our hair, beauty is not something to define people on. Beauty isn’t the outward, it is what’s inside that counts. We all lose sight of that but that’s where our true “gold” is.
Forget about the actress whose seemingly perfect face (I’ve got a secret about her; she is far from flawless. Remember that) you see plastered across the latest issue of Glamour, shuck the idea that you are not “important,” and instead realize you are special. This is an image issue that is a distortion. God holds you in the palm of His hand – His love for you is beyond knowledge. Go shine.